The day the earth stood still !!!

Life. How precious a gift life is only appreciated when we feel that it is going to end. Of course I am not talking about death, as it wont come after taking the appointment. But there is another think that comes after appointment. What that can be... it is called marriage. People like Yash Chopra and Sooraj Bharjathya may say that marriage is the most beautiful institution in the world.
To some extent it is true.. aint it???? Who wont be interested for a change when your life is flowing in a very normal path...

For quite some time I knew it that my parents are looking for groom for me, even though I didn't take it seriously. I thought that my contribution do not have much importance except to go home and meet the so called creature. I never said yes or no to any guy, I was having the feeling that what ever it may be, what ever I say, the destiny will chose me. I was terribly neutral on everything. But I know, I would have taken it seriously, I would have made up my mind and analyzed my concepts. From my experience I have learned that (but no use) u should not have a neutral attitude about anything in your life, when you are 100% sure that you will collide in to something, it is stupid to close the eyes, even though it will reduce the pain. Oh what a bad comparison. No it is not like that. In those cases where you know that you will end up doing that, you should have some concepts or some opinion on that matter. Otherwise it will be difficult to face the situation when the time comes. When you know that you will get married anyways, you should not keep a negative attitude about it, that will make it more difficult you to face the challenge :)

One November 09th Sunday. Precisely it was 09/11/2008. Alas it got such a similarity to the catastrophe happened on Sep 11.. So that was the day my whole life changed. But like always I didn't have a clue that, my life is turning in a big way. That was the day I met the one with whom I am supposed to spend my whole life.. Even though I may not be able to change the destiny or fate, it would have been nice if I knew it that my life is going to be changed in a big way. The problem was that I didn't get the time to digest the idea. Everything was so sudden, and I juts went with the flow.
Of course it was not going to be an easy thing to deal with the situation. If you do the SWOT analysis in marriage it is really funny: Of course when the situations are normal and there is not much contribution from outside forces:

You get lot of gifts.
At least for some days you will be in the lime light, people starts noticing at last that you exist in this world. :).
You will get good food, that too prepared by your beloved relatives. Alas!
If you are lucky enough you will get some body with whom you can be spend your life happily ever after.

The most difficult part of the ceremony is, we have to smile at every body without any specific reason, without taking in to consideration we know them or not, we like them or not. You might be down right tired and fed up but still you have to behave like you are having the time of your life. If I could help it I would have ran away from there. But I cant be selfish you know :(((

I never comprehended the difficulty of the poor people standing in the stage in marriages I have (un)lucky enough to attend. When you are the guest you are free to look at anywhere of your choice, do what ever you like and comment on others' attire. But when I comprehended the misery of being on the lime light, I understood what a hell it was. The only place we were authorized to look is either to the cameraman's face or to the camera, I was being scold when I tried to say hi to my friends. In short you wont be able to enjoy the precious moments (it is said so, that these are the most valuable moments in your life where blah.. blah....) in its full quantum.

And I was looking forward that at least I will get something to eat, but god there also fate defeated me. Finally when I was allowed to look some where else, parents and relatives came and started shouting at us. ' hey it is the rahukalam, better you guys get going... i stood there flabbergasted and hungry.. the privilege to eat something in my wedding is also declined for me.

And when you do arranged marriage the trouble is far far in a high range. Even though you might have spoken to the guy and all, still the night mare to spend the life with a total stranger is awful. You will appreciate, how mediocre was the nervousness and fright for the board exam and viva :))

Still the time only can prove whether the price and sacrifices you have made will be paid back or not. Only time can prove it. One thing is certain, life has taken a very steep bend and I dont know what is coming, is it still the same road, or is it something else............ with prayers..

just kidding.... :)))))) eh jaathe hue lamho.. zara tehro.. zara tehro...
mein phee tho chalthi hun...